When it comes to the 11 most common training mistakesis an open conversation at healersintuitive readers, health professionals, advisersi therapists – essentially anyone working in the healthcare and healing industry.
This post is for both coaches and those looking for a coach to get to know him red flags avoid. I’m a coach and meditation coach, so I often focus on how to teach meditation, and this topic covers one of my main tasks as a coach and coach. I work with these issues as part of my daily work, so I will share many examples these 11 common training mistakes.
11 common training mistakes
1. The coach talks too much
Whether through lecture, preaching, or teaching, the coach speaks too much when speaking rather than listening and being receptive to the client. Coaches benefit their clients when they are in a state of receptivity rather than drowning the client with their wisdom or knowledge. If you are a coach, it is important to consider any need to preach and remember to put the needs of the client first.
2. The coach speaks from a place of authority like a parent
Guests are not looking for another parent. Instead, a coach is a teammate who takes over another teammate. You are equal. The client is an adult and able to develop his path with a little spirit. A coach is there to enhance the client’s inner knowledge so they can make their own decisions and forge their own path.
3. The coach is predictive about the future of his clients
This error crosses a line of natural intuition or clairvoyance and begins to make psychic predictions about a client’s life. In an empowered session, the intention is to let the client discover their path, not for you to preach it.
As a customer looking for the right coach, be careful not to give up your power to a psychic reader. Coaches are people too. They are wrong. The fact that a coach is highly intuitive does not advance him spiritually or personally.
In a coaching relationship, the client is ultimately responsible for their own life, actions, and choices.
4. The coach tells the client directly what to do
Instead of telling you what to do, a coach is there to ask insightful questions so you can discover your path and what feels good inside you. A coach can state what you say you want to do and help you discern what you feel and hear. However, consider coaches who want to fit in, or their opinions and perspectives on your life. An experienced coach has an open space of neutrality and does not attempt to influence or intentionally influence the decisions you make.
5. The coach perpetuates the ideas of victim and separation
Consider coaches who help you accept the idea that you are a victim. These coaches can make you feel that life is happening to you and that you need to separate yourself from the people who are attacking you. They can draw a very black and white picture of what is wrong and right, and that they, as a coach, are the “ones” who can help you in your anguish. His advice can be as direct as, “You have to cut this person out of your life.” Of course, there may be extreme situations like abuse where you feel compelled to take these actions, but your most important life decisions should come from within you, not someone else.
6. The coach does not work with the energy of love, unity and compassion as a coach
Be mindful of coaches who don’t work from a place of love, unity, and compassion. In an empowerment session, you will feel raised in a space of consciousness that is peaceful. You may feel that the whole session with the coach is informed by this space. As a result, you will feel a positive energy through interactions with your coach.
As a coach, tune in before your sessions and make sure you come from a higher place within yourself instead of where you deal with your daily things. Create a space of awareness together with your client. To learn more about this approach to teaching, see our article “How to Teach Meditation.”
7. The coach does not evoke the wisdom of the client but drives his own agenda
This is a warning against preaching, teaching, or telling your client what to do. Instead, create a space for them to reach out to their own accomplishments and notice their emotions, feelings, and body. Coaches help extract their own wisdom, vision and intuition from their client. They don’t push a client in the direction that, as a coach, they think that person should go.
Guests have their own compass and wisdom. Take the time and have the patience to take advantage of this space with your client. The great thing is that you can do it with your customer, even online. We have found that online training is very effective, especially in times of social distancing. For more information, read our article “How to Teach Meditation Online.”
8. The coach leaves people with a sense of despair, despair and need
Be mindful of coaches who leave you hopeless, in a state of need. If you feel exhausted after working with a coach, pay attention. There are some coaches who leave you with a feeling of despair, that things are wrong in your life and that they are the “ones” who have the power to help you.
A positive coach leaves you with a sense of hope, insight, and clarity. Even if the sessions show the deepest, darkest emotions, you may notice a feeling of catharsis where energy is released. You may feel tired, but not desperate and heavy. You will come out lighter, more yourself.
9. The coach creates a sense of co-dependence with his client
This problem combines some of the things we’ve already discussed. The coach can make the client feel broken and the coach is “who” can fix them. The coach could even say, “I’m the one who has the solution, and it will take so much time and money to get there.” This approach may make you feel that your options are limited.
A truly experienced coach might say, “That’s what I offer. The choice is yours.” It looks like a gift presented with an open palm, not one with a hook attached. When people turn to others for help, they may feel the need to ask for answers, perhaps even desperately. It’s important to be aware of coaches connecting you to an agreement with the client that may not be to your best advantage.
10. The coach does not look at the bigger picture with the client
The coach paints a bleak picture of your life and makes you feel like you really need his help. However, an experienced coach recognizes that there is a learning experience even in the midst of the most painful situation. The client may be so focused on this situation that the big picture is lost and he cannot see the resolution of the end of the suffering. A coach will cultivate the client’s ability to be in their power even when they feel anxious and stressed. The result is a more hopeful, useful and rethought perspective around a situation. The technique used is asking questions, not explaining or giving lectures.
11. The coach uses prescriptive words as they should and should not
Some coaches direct their clients ’experience by telling them as parents,“ do this, don’t do this ”. “You should, you shouldn’t.” This comes from a consciousness based on fear rather than an empowered state. An experienced coach uses words that support and stimulate the client’s innate wisdom. They apply questions such as, “What do you think is right? What do you think is the next step? What do you feel? Where do you feel it in your body?” Again, your language and your questions should lead people to their innate wisdom. I should release them, not restrict them.
12. Finally, an extra point! The coach does not do enough personal inner work
There is a common archetype called a wounded healer. Healing is about helping others but not taking care of their own pain and wounds. All knowledge and wisdom flow in one direction toward others. An injured healer can continually flee his own true healing, avoiding his own pain while helping others overcome his own.
The problem is that if the coach is not doing his homework, they start projecting their own problems and blockages to their client. They train from a place of limitation, scarcity and scarcity instead of abundance. This perspective inadvertently fosters a sense of need, victimhood, and codependence.
A word to the customer
You should come out of a session with a coach who feels lighter, brighter, clearer, empowered, and connected to your spirit. It can be said that the coach has this open and loving space so that you follow your own wisdom and do not hesitate to choose your path. You should feel that you can be yourself fully and completely without the expectation that you have to please your coach or feel pressured to be anything or anyone. With truly supportive coaching, you will feel closer to your true and authentic self.
Summary: The 11 most common training mistakes
- The coach talks too much.
- The coach speaks from a position of authority as a parent.
- The coach is predictive of the future of his clients.
- The coach tells the client directly what to do.
- The coach perpetuates the ideas of victimhood and separation.
- The coach does not work with the energy of love, unity and compassion.
- The coach fails to evoke the wisdom of the client.
- The coach leaves people with a sense of despair, despair and need.
- The coach creates a sense of codependence with his client.
- The coach does not look at the big picture with the client.
- The coach uses prescriptive words as they should and should not.
- ** The coach does not do enough personal inner work.
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